Blood sport

Synopsis: People have been playing blood sports ever since they learned to enjoy such sports and support a multi billion dollar industry that promotes blood sport like boxing.Now it is coming under intense scrutiny worldwide that wishes all blood sports to be replaced by non violent sports that this blog suggests.

Blood sport

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The most popular sport in the world is called football. It is an ancient sport played during the Aztec empire and in other parts of the world with a ball kicked by the players. It is a sport where the size of the player does not matter. The only thing that matters is his skill in kicking the ball and his speed so even a small boy can play against big men and defeat them if he is fast and can push the ball to its goal.

People love this sport all over the world and play in their villages, towns and cities from their childhood. It is a sport that does not require fancy stadiums, body suits, helmets, gloves or even shoes because it is not a contact sport. Anyone can play it anywhere that has made it the most popular sport in the world.

The excitement of the World cup reaches its climax when the players gather at a venue every four years just like the Olympics and play to win the coveted cup. Millions watch the game via satellite in every country and some watched the octopus avidly to see if it will predict a winner. In the last World cup, it took its time but finally sat on the box marked with Germany’s colors to the great disappointment of the others. Germany went on to win the cup in 2014.

In the United States a sport where the players run with the odd-shaped ball in their hand is called football which is their national sport along with the baseball. To differentiate their game from the football played in other countries, they call it soccer although football remains the name elsewhere. The American football is a very big business indeed that generates millions of dollars in ticket sales and the sale of the sport paraphernalia, TV broadcast rights and related business practices.

The players selected to play in the national teams compete fiercely and the winners achieve the star status that few other sportsmen get along with massive salaries and perks but the fame and the money comes at a price so today I will write about what price they pay.

I was watching a movie last night on TV where an immigrant neuro surgeon from Nigeria found out that the players were dying from severe head injuries sustained during the games over a period of time. He observed the injuries during the autopsy he performed on the brains of the dead players and came to the conclusion that the violent head butting practiced by the players caused the damage to the brain that ultimately killed them. This doctor was vilified by the NFL authorities who debunked his findings and did not permit him to present his findings at a meeting in Chicago because accepting such findings if true could hurt their profits that were enormous.

It was no different from the tobacco barons who declared in the Congressional hearings in Washington, D.C. that tobacco never killed anyone in spite of massive proofs to the contrary because accepting such proof would result in their loss of profit they made from cigarettes and other tobacco products. This would change later when under tremendous pressure from the scientists made them accept the fact that tobacco was a killer. Now most countries ban smoking in public places because the second-hand smoke is just as dangerous as the smoker who pollutes the air.

In Australia, the cigarette makers are compelled to show in graphic details pictures of cancer on the packets with the warning that people should be aware of the dangers of smoking.

There is another game called boxing that causes severe brain injuries because the brain sloshes around in the skull due to the blows the boxers receive at each other’s hand that damages the brain permanently. Remember Muhammad Ali? He turned into a vegetable and died pitifully although people will remember him as the greatest of the boxers.

I call these sports Blood sports because it kills the sportsman or greatly impairs his ability to live a normal life after retirement just like Ali.

In the movie, a football player who was laid off from the team because he complained of severe headaches and could not play any longer, begged for help from everyone he knew including the mayor but was ignored so one day he took his life and left a will that said that his brain should be donated to the neuro surgeon to determine the cause of his severe headaches. Perhaps his death will help others having similar problems.

The paid doctors of the NFL all denied that the findings of the neuro surgeon were true just like the doctors paid by the tobacco companies who denied the scientific reports that tobacco kills people.

In the capitalistic country, money is the main driver so the health and the hazards posed by the games or the tobacco or anything else that causes harms to people takes a second seat because the status quo keeps them in gravy. They pay the doctors and scientists to write favorable reports so that they can keep on making money. There is no shortage of doctors and scientists who can be easily bought for the right amount so they ignore the Hippocrates Oath they all take to speak only the truth.

The blood sport is nothing new. Romans gathered in their coliseums in large numbers just to see the gladiators kill each other with knives, swords or just the bare hands. Their blood lust had no limits so a Roman king ordered a month-long blood bath using such blood sports where wild animals tore into the poor captives and gladiators. Thousands of lions and tigers were also killed in the name of sport drenching the sand of the coliseum in Rome and elsewhere although the camera toting tourists ignore these facts and gawk at the ruins that ruined many lives there long ago.

Thousands of years later we still find blood sport exciting where a beautiful bull is tormented by the matadors in Spain and Mexico with their spears and enrage the bull that often gores them to kill. All you hear from the crowd is Ole Ole while the matador takes a bow and the bull bleeds to death. There are now protests and demands to ban such blood sports forever but again the money speaks here so it is an uphill fight for the activists.

Here in the Philippines and in many other countries , the cock-fighting is legal and people gamble a lot of money on cocks that have sharp steel spurs attached to their legs they use to slash and kill each other.

There was a time when people shot the wild buffaloes roaming the American prairies from their train windows killing thousands because they loved the “sport” of it. The same lust for blood allowed a man to go and kill Cecil the lion in Africa where he posed with the dead lion to show off to his admirers back home. He was roundly condemned in the social media but such condemnation does not bring back the Cecils.

Then there are slaughters of animals in the name of religion in Nepal where thousands of goats, sheep and other animals are brought to a temple ground and killed ritualistically presided by the priests just to propitiate the God that they claim lusts for blood. It is truly nauseating as thousands including children watch this river of blood every year. Now there are people who are demanding the end of this practice but who listens?

I think there is a strain of cruelty in some people who think that blood sports are fun and buy expensive tickets to watch the players hurt each other like in the United States football games. Those who can’t afford the tickets camp out in the parking lot drinking beer and watching the games on big screens while making bar-be-ques. For them it is fun.

Whether it is Muai Thai or regular boxing or American football, it has to do with violence of these sports and the consequences the players suffer due to the injuries they receive. Boxing is also an old sport practiced during the Roman times but the Romans did not value human lives except their own so did not care if the slaves boxed each other to death. It was fun for them.

There are many sports that are not blood sports and can be played by anyone who wants to have fun. They do not cost anything because no expensive stadiums, body armor, shoes and helmets are required. I will just mention one such sport called kabaddi that people in India play.

In this game there are two teams with a dividing line marked on the ground. One player crosses the line into the opposing camp while holding his breath and tries to touch someone and return to his side while the opposing team tries to avoid him and pin him down to break his breath. If the player manages to touch someone and return to his side then that player is outed. Thus the game continues in dwindling number until only the last two players remain. This game is so simple and so beautiful that it takes your breath away literally. The kids play it in their villages and the adults have kabaddi teams that participate in the Asian games. It only requires skill in holding the breath and touching someone. Kids just wear tight shorts and rub some oil on their body to make it slippery and hard for the opposing team to get hold of.

There are many sports that are not blood sports but the most popular is the football the Americans call soccer. It requires only the agility and skill of a player to kick the ball to the goal that the goal keeper frantically tries to stop. In fact the goalie is the real hero in some teams. They achieve the star status worldwide and are recognized instantly no matter where they go.

When we were in Haiti where football is very popular, I used to bring girls in my pick up to play in the neighboring villages. I was amazed at their skills at the game although minor injuries occurred once in a while. The Mexicans were outraged when Haiti knocked them out of the World Cup in Mexico City not knowing how seriously Haitians take the sport. Any corn field after the harvest becomes a football field for them so they play the game with joy and abandon unseen elsewhere.

Now kids are learning to play football in America and the interest in this beautiful game is increasing each year. The women’s football teams compete internationally and sometimes win.

There is more awareness of the injuries sustained in their “football” games thanks to the Hollywood movies so many young people want to play the real football where they can play it safely and enjoy it too. But they are up against the NFL that is big and powerful with a lot of money involved so again it is the money that controls the game and not the injuries sustained by the players. Who cares if a player drops out and later dies of his injuries? There are others who will take their place quickly so the game goes on.

The injured players often die of poverty and lack of care so some decide to take their lives to end the torment. What is needed to end all blood sport is the alternatives that are already there but it is very hard to change the national culture of any country where blood sport becomes a part of their culture so they are loath to part with it.

Playing is a part of our nature. We all love to play some game at some point in our lives. Most of us do not become national players but we play for fun and not for accolades. But when you play a blood sport for money and fame and lose your life or sustain severe injuries in the process then just ask yourself before your brain shuts down this simple question. Was it worth it?

 

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Down the memory lane

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Synopsis : We all love to remember the good times we had with good people and try to forget the bad people who leave no impression in our lives. This blogs remembers those who made a big impression in my life and who I miss.

Have you ever stopped to think about the people you met often by chance or by design who left an indelible impression on you? Have you ever wondered what happened to them and where they might be? How has life treated them? Are they still alive or dead and how is it that such people have entirely disappeared from your life without leaving a trace?

These are very valid questions that may induce you to think about them deeply and make you realize with a pang that you miss them.

In this long journey of life we meet all sorts of people along the way. While most people you meet are perhaps not worth writing about including the toxic people who used you, demanded favors from you and showed no gratitude, people with no manners who were poor examples of the humanity and who left you better off disappearing from your life, there are those whom you still miss and wish to see them once again before you kick the proverbial bucket so to speak.

We all have such experiences of meeting people who left an impression that lasts but sadly they have all disappeared. I do not mean your high school classmates or college classmates or the kids you grew up with in your neighborhood while you were growing up although there may have been a few you would have liked to keep in touch.

In my life there have been quite a few such people. I remember Louis with his boyish and eager face and red curly hair who loved to ride my motorbike and would drive 200 kms to come to see me. I still have his photo with his mischievous smile and exuberant personality but he has completely disappeared. I tried looking him up in the social media where often you can find people who are long-lost but I did not succeed.

There was Wiriya who was a wonderful Thai girl who showed me around in Bangkok and introduced me to the University where she worked across the river.

There was Alison who would bring me to the bus station in the middle of the night to say goodbye in California. There was John who was supposed to go with me to Angkor Wat but I had to cancel the trip because something came up. There was Masafumi who showed me Tokyo the way only a native could. There was Kam Fat in Sheung Shui I wrote about earlier in a blog.

Looking back, I vividly remember their young eager faces trying  so hard to be my friend and ready to do anything to please me that still makes me feel their absence now. I had a dorm mate in California called Steve who was so simple and so innocent that it was hard to believe.

During my travels through many countries over the years, I have met many such people who are hard to forget which makes it even harder to accept that they have so completely vanished. The one I tried very hard to find again was my French teacher Marie Françoise who would non nonchalantly cross the streets anywhere just like she did in France and look very surprised when she got a ticket for it in Washington, D.C.  She was funny, witty and full of mischief and a gem of a person whom I cannot forget.  I could not understand her handwriting so the address she gave me at the last-minute was useless to me and I lost her when I left the United States.

After such a long time of more than 50 years or so, people move to different locations, they marry, have their families or break up and go somewhere else with someone else. What terrifies me is the thought that they may have become sick or may have died.

So we all have at some time or other met wonderful people who have now disappeared never to be found again. Perhaps it was the time and the circumstance under which we met that can’t be replicated again .We all move on in our life in different directions so our roads never converge again as it did so long ago.

This world is so big if you think about it for a minute. It is vast and the distances that seemed short in the jet age long ago now seem so great now that we have stopped travelling. So I wanted to record these wonderful people in this blog with a very faint hope that someone somewhere may read it and say I knew him when we were so young and reckless, fun-loving and adventurous. We got into mischief but we had fun together.

Our life is like a book where the memories are written and we revisit the pages again and again even if the book becomes threadbare and fragile. I choose to write about the good people I knew and ignore the bad people who were toxic. I choose to remember the people I liked and cherished than the ones I detested and who never became my friends.

I found out that people anywhere open up and smile if you just have the courage to say hello with some exceptions in some countries where they are suspicious and afraid of you. I do not write about them because they never became my friends even though they were my office mates or neighbors.

I must say that I am partial to the French people because they were so friendly to me from the start. We used to meet at the same restaurant every evening for our meal in Tizi Ouzou ,Algeria and knew many of them. They used to shout from their table and say we are coming to pick you up tomorrow to play football in the next town or there is a party tonight that you must attend. One used to pick me up at my office during the noon break and we would swim in the azure blue Mediterranean just below his house on a hill-top and roast a lamb in the evening on charcoal fire while listening to Jean Ferrat in stereo.

There was Yves who did not hesitate for a second when I asked him to tow a fellow whose car broke down and needed help. He moved to Rabat and remains lost to me. I was blessed to know so many good people .I cannot write about all of them but they are lovingly remembered in my threadbare book of life.

If you  have similar experience then write about them and make the memory permanent in the blog even if you do not know where they are . This is the least anyone can do to show that good people are always cherished because they had a positive impact on your life in some way.

If you close your eyes for a minute and think of life as a multitude of people you meet on the road of life who are all traveling in the same direction and will meet the same end sooner or later, you begin to appreciate your fellow travelers who may slow down and may stop while you go ahead and meet new ones until you too slow down and stop while others coming behind you overtake you someday.

I cannot go back to those days except in the by-lanes of my memory.

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Sexual depredation of women

Synopsis: All over the world women face sexual harassment and have now started to come out to denounce those who have mistreated them with the hope that the culture of sexual depredation of women will stop and they will be treated fairly with respect and dignity. The blog studies the root cause of sexual harassment in any culture that needs greater scrutiny .

Sexual depredation of women

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Now a days there seems to be an epidemic of news about the sexual depredation of women almost everywhere but more so in the film industry of Hollywood, Bollywood and other such places in the fashion industry.  Numerous women have come out in the open and have complained of very degrading treatment of female aspiring stars who want to get a role in a movie. They are groped, paraded naked by casting directors to see if they have cinematic or camera friendly bodies and are often rejected saying they are too fat and must shed some weight before they can be considered.

Others have been physically assaulted and raped on the so-called casting couches by the powerful producers and movie moguls as a rite of passage to movie roles. Many such young and beautiful women come from the hinterland and small towns with dreams of making it into the movie or TV world and have to face the horrible sexual depredation in the hands of rich and powerful people who decide their fate.

Some end up getting small roles of insignificance if they are lucky so they take to the streets to earn a living just to survive. Some get into drugs and alcohol because they are invited to numerous parties given by the rich and famous where they are groped and abused after intoxication. Just ask any famous movie star what they had to do to get the role that made them a star and they will tell you their horrible stories of sexual exploitation.

The sad part is that people who exploit women sexually without their consent and under duress are rich and enjoy impunity so no one listens to these poor girls but now the flood gates are open and many women around the world are coming out daily with their horrendous stories and abuse with the hope that these men are exposed and their impunity is taken away.

It is a known fact that the rich and powerful can get away with almost anything in any country. They hire powerful lawyers to make women withdraw their complaints often with hush money or threats so many abused women are discouraged to pursue their cases.

There was a movie producer in Mumbai that was called Bombay in the olden days who rescued young and beautiful girls seeking movie roles from sexual depredation and sent them home and paid for their train tickets but such people are rare. You hear more about the bad people in the movie and television industry than the good people. Some have been forced to resign and are facing law suits while others go Scott free and carry on as if nothing has happened.

But something has happened. The brave abused women now have a voice and have started to come out to write about their sad experiences in the social media and newspapers to name and shame these predators that still enjoy immunity to a great extent. All over the world this sort of things goes on daily where the victims do not have a voice and can’t complain if the assailant is rich and powerful.

The abuse of women is nothing new. It happens daily in public places, in buses, in taxis, in hotels, in planes and even in places of some religious significance. I wrote about a person who raped and assaulted numerous women in Punjab and who is now in jail for 20 years but there are others who carry on as usual until they are brought to justice someday.

A young woman cannot walk down the street without getting some cat calls and verbal assault from vagabonds lurking in every street corner especially if she is attired provokingly meaning very short skirts or skimpy clothes that expose most of the breast. This cat calling and eve teasing is a way common people show disapproval in some countries where their culture demands modesty from women in public. Their culture demands that women dress in a manner that does not provoke men to do the cat calling so by and large most women abide just to be safe from these predators.

But in the western culture, a woman can wear what she likes and behave as she likes with scant regard to others because there are no decency or indecency laws worth the paper they are written on and much less implemented.  In some countries there are nude beaches or parks where women go about stark naked while in other countries women wear next to nothing and feel that they have covered the essentials so it is ok. If they get cat calls or sexual remarks, they just shrug it off because they are used to it since puberty.

But some women are now fighting back. There was a case here in the Philippines when two young girls took a taxi but the driver took them to a secluded place to rape them so they got down ,dragged the driver out and gave him a thorough beating that cracked his bones. These girls knew martial art and put it to good use. The driver had messed with the wrong girls and learned his lessons the hard way.

In another case two girls in Punjab who got tired of constant eve teasing and cat calls decided to do something about it and beat up several boys. This inspired other girls similarly harassed to take action and they formed a judo club to learn martial art for self-defense.

I have written in one of my blogs that the modesty is defined according to the country and the popular culture they have so it is not immodest if an African girl in Mali or Kenya goes bare breasted because it is natural for them to be so. No one cat calls and teases them so molestation is unheard of. Their village council punishes anyone teasing or abusing women in some way so women feel safe. In Haiti, women bathe in public nude but no one teases them or molests them. I have lived in Africa and in Haiti so I know. In their culture it is quite acceptable for women to bare themselves while bathing or changing clothes in public so no one notices anything odd while in Moslem countries the religious police wander around with a whip and beat women who dare to expose themselves this way. So the definition of modesty varies from country to country. The tolerance to nudity also varies from country to country depending on their culture.

In some African countries, modesty is limited to lower parts so you will hardly ever see a woman who does not cover her legs although bare breasted. The clothes they wear are a matter of functionality and not fashion while in the western world, fashion is paramount that feeds a billion dollar industry.

Often it is the industry that dictates the fashion in vogue so they make available skimpy clothes and very short shorts that they put on display on mannequins to show what is the current fashion. If a woman is ashamed to wear such clothes in public then she will not buy them but she will also not find the alternative she is seeking. The old-fashioned full  kinis mono or bi are nowhere to be found in any store.

The movie and TV stars are at the forefront of the fashion industry where they show off their sheer transparent gowns with no underwear that the fashion magazines love and pay them a lot of money for because it sells their magazines. Then some other women say why not. I too can wear such clothes and appear in public.

So let us return to the issue of modesty here and of sexual depredation of women. In Egypt where female harassment in public is quite common including cat calling and groping, now they have formed boy’s brigade who roam the streets to catch the harassers and beat them up publicly. It is a small step in the right direction so perhaps boys will be more careful in teasing a girl anywhere. The cell phones with camera also play an important role because the watchers can now record an incident and show it to the police or the boy’s brigade to identify the wrong doers. Still women are not safe altogether and are assaulted in lonely places or dark alleys.

In the state of Uttar Pradesh in India, the chief minister has ordered the police to form a roving brigade to catch people who are disrespectful of women and slap heavy fine or prison terms for them but they can’t be everywhere so it goes on unless the girl knows karate.

In Asian countries and in the Middle Eastern countries, women are bound by the tradition of modest clothes that reveal nothing so people show their disapproval to anyone not obeying those rules. That is the main reason for their cat calls although not always limited to it. A woman is not supposed to be out late at night alone or with a boyfriend which can lead to tragedy as it happened in Delhi in a bus. The girl was brutally raped and beaten along with her companion and dumped by the roadside. The Prime Minister sent her to Singapore in his private plane to get urgent medical treatment but she died. The boy survived.

Also in many countries where by tradition the sexes are separated from the childhood, the boyfriend or girl friendship is not approved so the tradition of arranged marriage is the norm.

This is not the case in the Western culture where the sexes are not separated so boys and girls go to school together from their childhood and mix easily shedding the shyness Asian girls generally have toward boys although here in the Philippines the first question any girl will ask any other girl is if she has a boyfriend or not because to them it is of paramount importance. They always try to imitate the Western culture and their values.

Here you will see the girls practically hanging on to the boys and vice versa as if they are going to run away. Public display of affection (often quite vulgar) is common unlike in more traditional societies where even touching a woman is considered uncivilized and frowned upon.

In a Hollywood movie I was watching the other day on TV, the man asked the woman how many lovers she had before they met to which she asked “ in college or since high school? Then she showed four fingers. Women are used to sex since puberty and often take their boyfriends home. The parents tip toe around them seeing them kissing and groping and some mothers even smile because to them it is quite natural and normal. She did it herself when young. Besides who listens to them? The girl can say to her parents she is 16 and can do as she pleases.

This liberal attitude toward the sexuality prevalent in the Western culture that leads to teen age pregnancies and the consequences that bedevil their society is a social issue. This easy attitude toward sex is perhaps the reason why some men in power abuse women in Hollywood and elsewhere. I get the feeling that rape and sexual abuse of women in any form is basically a power play between two persons and not always about sex itself.

Many psychologists agree. They say that the liberal attitude toward sex is mainly the culprit. One person who is powerful takes advantage of a weaker person in a certain situation where the weaker person is seeking a favor, a part, a role in a movie or TV series. It is the same sort of power play when soldiers rape hundreds of women during the war because they feel powerful with a gun in their hand and no defense for the women. They also do it because they can get away with it like in Bangladesh war.

The Prime Minister Sheikh Mujibur Rahman pleaded with young men to come forward and marry these raped women and give them a new life after the war. The culprits were never punished.

There is another aspect of the liberal sexual attitude prevalent in the Western culture that some other countries accept as their model and abandon their traditional values. You will find numerous clubs where boys and girls, men and women of a certain age congregate to have fun. It means loud music, lot of drinking and dancing as if it is going out of style. There they dance with strangers often holding each other and drinking. Some will inevitably ask the question-  “your place or mine” that can have tragic consequences.  This is the staple of the Hollywood movies that are shown worldwide. Following their example, many such dance clubs sprout in many countries. One in Manila had a club full of young people dancing with abandon when a fire broke out and hundreds died.

I cannot criticize the Western culture just because they are different from others when it comes to sexuality. I am just writing about the consequences of this liberality and tolerant attitude of people who avert their eyes from the bosom of a girl wearing low-cut blouse. You are not supposed to look at anyone even if she is naked except on the sly. You are not supposed to criticize a girl or woman who wears inappropriate clothes to school or even college unless you are a tough Principal. Women in my class in California used to come in their skimpy bikinis. The professor just pretended to ignore them. They will ask you why it is inappropriate?

The old cliché that boys will be boys does not solve the problem women have and the harassment they suffer everyday unless they take up karate lessons and teach these people a lesson. Maybe Mr. Miyagi is still accepting students.

 

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Fake gurus

Synopsis : It is nothing new that the unscrupulous people try to take advantage of simple minded people in the name of religions giving rise to the industry of fake gurus. The blogs warns of such fake religionists everywhere and cautions the gullible people to be more careful in parting with their hard earned cash.

Fake gurus

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In today’s frantic and competitive world full of stress and anxiety, people have a hunger for spiritual guidance that has given rise to the fake spiritual leaders called gurus who promise the Valhalla for a price and reap enormous benefits in doing so. They are sprouting like mushrooms all over the world but more so where the climate is favorable. This has something to do with the low-level of education, poverty and a hopeless life that some people have making them more gullible and vulnerable to fake gurus who offer all sorts of spiritual help for a price.

Recently one such person has been arrested in India who built up his empire using the tax-free money he collected from his followers and lived a lifestyle of super-rich and used his place to rape and abuse numerous women who have now filed cases against this person.  But this is not an isolated case. I remember a case in the United States where a televangelist was caught living a life of a rich man cavorting with prostitutes and sexually abusing his followers as well.

There is a long list of Catholic priests and nuns who have been found to be pedophiles and have been reported to the authorities in various countries that have prosecuted some of them and are following up on other cases. The Catholic churches have paid enormous sums of money to the victims to settle their cases out of the courts but this sort of thing goes on everywhere in spite of Vatican’s tough stance on the subject of pedophilia.

India is a country where the fake gurus are dime a dozen because it is so lucrative as a business. All one has to do is to set up an ashram, write a few propaganda pamphlets and distribute them among the people and wait. They need some accomplices who will do the job of propaganda and share the loot that starts to flow in sooner or later all tax-free.

It is a common practice there to occupy a piece of land illegally, plant a religious flag, build a ramshackle temple of sorts and keep a big donation box with a padlock and a slit on top. No one can force them off the land they so occupy because it has to do with religion fake guru or not. With money flowing in, soon they start the expansion and build more and more buildings and high walls to protect what they have acquired illegally.

This is how the fake guru in Punjab started his business and expanded over the years to over 900 acres of land to include five-star hotels, golf courses, massage parlors that doubled as brothels and other amenities where he entertained rich and prominent people seeking favors from them. They in turn protected this man from the justice system.

One such guru set up his ashram in a rural part of Oregon where his fleet of Rolls Royce cars was seen parked. Eventually under pressure from the fundamentalists and other such groups, this guru was ousted and his outfit closed down by the government. His private jet was also seized and he was put in a prison where he was very badly treated and later released. Soon after returning to India, this fellow died of unknown reasons although he was very healthy. His followers say that he was poisoned while in jail in the United States but this has never been substantiated.

When my wife and I were travelling through South India visiting many temples, we were warned by our guide not to give our names and address to any temple where they will invariably ask for them. Once they get your address, they will constantly pester you for donation until they run out of stamps and envelopes.

A few women I met while I was staying at the Rama Krishna Mission in Lucknow kept on pestering me for my address for days until they got it. Then they started demanding donation from me for their mission and projects and refused to take no for an answer. I ignored them. There are endless gurus and their followers who are constantly demanding donations and gifts in the name of religion and spiritual advice. Some become quite successful in collecting money and live the rich life style until they are brought to justice but others quickly fill the void.

I have always been wary of fake sadhus, gurus and self-styled messiahs but still they try just in case. One such group in my home town was desperate to seek new members to their cult because a cult cannot survive unless they get new recruits that bring in the cash as donation. They could not get more than 15 people even after trying so hard so I do not know what finally happened. The old members died one by one and no one seemed to be interested in such a guru and his cult so it probably withered at least from our town.

Now a days the gurus go high-tech and have their own free webpages in Facebook, twitter and run their own blog sites always with the donate button and paypal buttons. They also accept credit cards of any kind so they take full advantage of the technology in a way that was not possible even a decade ago.

This brings me back to the original issue of gullibility. Why common people knowingly and often willingly fall like an insect into the trap of these predatory spiders? Why seemingly normal people lose their common sense and join these dubious sects and cults that these fake gurus set up to enrich themselves? Why they ignore the arrests of these gurus and still proclaim their loyalty to them? Are they really any different from the common uneducated people who proclaim their loyalty to a crooked politician known for his abuse of women, fraudulent business deals and immoral character and vote for him? Sounds familiar?

I think it is due to this hunger for something or someone who is missing from their pitiful life. Of all types of hunger, the spiritual hunger is the most potent one that makes people go to any length to satisfy them. Remember the case of Jonestown massacre in Guyana in South America? That is perhaps an extreme case of brain washing on a massive scale but mollahs are actively engaged in such activities and are training young people to take up terrorism in the name of religion and cause havoc. No one brings these mollahs to justice or even tries to.

In the Philippines it is quite common to find scammers who put up a statue of Mary somewhere, dab a bit of goat blood on the eyes and wait. Soon the word spreads that Mama Mary is shedding tears of blood so the people start bringing in food and money. There is always a donation box with padlock nearby that these crooks watch all the time. It is really no different from the statue of Ganesh sipping milk in India. This sort of fake news spreads rapidly now through the social media.  There are many variations of this kind of scam in any country.

One particular scam that I knew of in my home town was truly the work of a genius scammer who said that his white hair will be found in every Geeta or MahaBharat in India. If proven true then his believers should show their gratitude by sending money to the following address. So people started looking for a strand of white hair in their Geeta or MahaBharat  and many found one not realizing that it is not at all unusual for the old people with white hair to find a strand in their holy book. Such people are the prime supporters of these scammers. Don’t they know that we all shed hair constantly?

My purpose of this blog is to bring you the stories of these fake gurus and unscrupulous people who are out to make money this way to enrich themselves by taking money from people who can least afford it. Most never get caught although some do. The subject of religion and gurus is such a sensitive subject that the authorities always tip toe around them unless they have solid evidence of wrong doings. It is rather easy to identify these fake gurus. Just look at their silk kurtas, Rolex watches, patent polished leather shoes and expensive SUVs .They will say that it is all paid by their admirers but it clearly shows the character of the man.

There have been great spiritual leaders in India who never asked anything from anyone. They lived the life of poverty but enriched the world through their teachings. People have built temples for them and worship them and read their books. People revere them because they have learned that the real spiritual leaders are selfless, live a life of poverty and ask nothing from anyone. What they offer is only the spiritual guidance.

So why the same people lose their common sense and follow the fake gurus? I think it has to do with a bit of charisma and a glib fluency these gurus have in giving sermons. Somehow it is enough to impress the common people who then show how impressed they are by donating money. It is the same thing done by the tele evangelists who run their own TV shows every day and rake in lots of money. These crooks have an added advantage. They hire people to write their sermons and then read it using tele prompters or cue cards that someone holds out of the range of camera.

Then they fill the crowd with their accomplices who pretend to be sick and lame and start walking just at the touch of these crooks and even fall down when touched with just a finger to be caught by other crooks who are in the crowd so it is all stage-managed up to the last detail. But do the viewers  know it or believe that they are being conned? They don’t. You will see old women who sit in front of their TV and putting their palms on the screen to ”absorb the good vibes” that the preacher is supposedly sending out.

I know a story about a person who used to maintain the computers of a tele evangelist in a church somewhere that recorded all the names of donors and the amount they sent. This chap was a computer expert who made a program that automatically siphoned off some amount from the coffers and sent it to his account somewhere. It was done in a way that was hard to detect but somehow he was caught and fired from his job. But he had long prepared himself for such an eventuality so had inserted a secret program into the computer that was activated when the secretary typed the name on the envelope she received to register them. All he did was to mail an envelope with the name the program could recognize that activated the program that then deleted all the names of the donors and their addresses from the hard drive.

Imagine what they could do without the donor’s list and all the past account of the money they had received? It was hilarious. I hope it was a true story.

You must use your common sense to know when someone is scamming you. But if you are hungry for some spirituality then you can be sure that some people will take advantage of you and convince you to part with your hard-earned money.

No one can drill the common sense into you.  Either you have it or you don’t.

 

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Bliss of forgiveness

Synopsis: We all experience in our lives the wrongs that have been done to us at some time that is like a festering wound that seldom heals. Buddha taught us that it is the bliss of forgiveness that extricates us from the hurt feelings and gives us peace.

Bliss of forgiveness

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I admired the late Pope John Paul II who was shot by a Turkish gunman who mistakenly took him for a radical Pope against the Moslems. Luckily the Pope was saved by the quick thinking doctors who had excellent facilities and surgical skills. What surprised the whole world was the way the Pope took it calmly and after recovery went to the jail to meet with his assassin and blessed him and forgave him.  I believe the convict wept for this show of genuine empathy for him by a Pope whom he had tried to kill due to a mistaken belief.

I think this empathy for the adversary and the willingness to forgive anyone of wrong doings sets a person apart from all others who depend on retribution more than anything else. Jesus used to say that if a person slaps you on one cheek, give him the other cheek showing compassion and forgiveness. The remorse and the self-realization of a misdeed has a very strong effect on a person who has some conscience.

But in the real world, often we find people doing horrible things in the name of misguided beliefs and have absolutely no conscience that can guide them in the right direction. Just ask the assassin of Malala Yousafzai  why he shot such a beautiful innocent girl who only wanted to go to school. Just ask the Talibans why they kill children and blow up their schools in the name of a mistaken belief that girls should not be educated. Who gives them the right to take away the freedom of others?

I admire those who have a compassionate heart and readily forgive and show mercy to those who have done wrong to them. Mercy and forgiveness should not be construed as condoning wrongdoings of others .Jesus did not condone the usury of loan sharks in the temple and fought against it. He fought against the injustice everywhere and stood up to the brutality of oppression of the Romans but he also had a compassionate heart and forgave Judas for betraying him that led to his crucifixion.

This world is full of bad people who will try to harm you, cheat you, take advantage of you, malign you without reason, rob you or even kill you just for a few coins. One policeman shot dead a man over a dispute about a toothpick recently here in the Philippines and a man shot dead a pregnant woman over a parking spot dispute.

I have personally been taken advantage of by unknown people who had absolutely no qualms about doing so putting me in grave danger but luckily I survived. Once I was at the Frankfurt airport where an airport security woman became very nervous when she asked me if I had anything that did not belong to me. I said yes I did have a package given to me by someone to carry to the Philippines. She then asked me to open the package to see what was inside. We were very surprised to find some garlic and lemons etc. of very poor quality that I threw away. Why would anyone send such poor quality things to the Philippines where they have excellent garlic and lemons? I guess I was foolish enough to accept the package in the first place because I am innocent and often grant favors to others without much thinking but that experience taught me a few lessons so now I refuse.

One has to learn through such experiences to say no very firmly and avoid such people in the future but often you will meet people whom you cannot avoid no matter how hard you try. They may be your classmates; they may be your office workers or your neighbors. They may be even your relatives who are the hardest to get rid of.

I have written about toxic people in one blog that may be worth reading here.

But today I write about forgiveness exemplified by the Pope whom the whole world respected and who may be declared a saint but we are not the Pope. We are ordinary people who have no such ability to forgive people who do us wrong in life. Courts are full of cases where someone is always suing someone over some silly things thus tying up precious court time that could be spent solving more serious cases.

We are intolerant of others, their beliefs and their religion. We are intolerant of other’s cultures, other’s race, other’s ethnicity and other’s food, clothes and even language. This intolerance breeds contempt for others who are not like us and results often in mass shootings like in Las Vegas recently. It is a manifestation of anger that leads some people to take such drastic steps.

The question to ask is why we are often so angry and angry about what? What makes us feel superior to others and superior in what way? I have often seen and felt this self-righteous sense of superiority among some people who start condescending towards others.

When we helped a woman who was injured in a car accident and brought her home to give her better care than what she was getting at a dirty hospital in Haiti, we were asked by the American missionaries why we helped an unknown person that was very surprising to us. I thought that the missionaries were supposed to follow the example Jesus set for them but I was deceived by their apparent religiosity that lacked compassion and empathy.

Over the years I have come to realize that the human life is very short so it is not worth carrying the heavy load of ill feelings generated by people who did us wrong in some way so found a way to dump all our bad experiences and forgive them. It is a good feeling to be free of this nagging and continuous sense of hurt especially when you are innocent and have been victimized by bad people.

There is a Hindi song I like where the singer says that one should always keep the company of saintly people and get rid of all those people who are bad because the saintly people help you become a better person through their examples while the bad people drag you down in life.

Life of equanimity:  

Buddha preached 2500 years ago that one should try to live the life of equanimity to attain peace and freedom from want, greed, avarice and all the ills of mankind. What he meant was that nothing really matters in life except good values and good deeds. When a man can free himself of desire, then and only then he becomes free and attains peace in this life.  Money, cars, jewelries, big house, comfort, excellent food and fancy clothes etc. are the result of desire that never ends. Desiring but not getting it then creates unhappiness so people try to fill their lives with material things thinking that it will bring them happiness but they are wrong.

Whitney Houston was rich, famous and lived in a palatial home but had no friends and died pitifully overdosing on drugs alone. You can be surrounded with material things but still feel lonely because it does not bring you friends. Those who claim to be your friends are only attracted by the wealth that they want to exploit  so rich people have lots of such “friends” who drop them the moment they become poor due to bankruptcy.

Swami Vivekananda also said the same thing and said that we come to this world naked and leave with only our shirt on so what we acquire all our lifetime is left behind. He was given a nice bed to sleep on one day but he also slept under a tree and went hungry often. It was all the same to him. That is the true meaning of the life of equanimity.

It is easy to say but very hard to follow in real life as we are all full of desires and want to fulfill those desires at any cost. The material culture we live in teaches us this greed for material things that are advertised all the time in the TV and media. There was a TV ad in India that showed a green devil making a person jealous just because he does not have this brand of TV.

Can you imagine yourself living a life of equanimity someday? Can you imagine saying nothing really matters in life and one can live without the material things and be happy? Can you say that good food and ordinary food are all the same because they serve the same purpose of quenching the hunger? Can you say that fancy designer clothes or ordinary second-hand cotton clothes are all the same because they only cover your nakedness?

I know that it is very hard for the ordinary people to live the life of equanimity because we all are the product of our upbringing, environment and culture so the desire is hard-wired into our brain from childhood that cannot be easily unwired later on in life.

But I also think that Buddha and Vivekananda were right in saying that we should all try to attain the state of equanimity and live a simple life that will bring us closer to the peace that we so desire. One way to get there is first to get rid of the heavy burden we carry on our frail shoulders. This is the burden of hurt feelings that the bad people have caused by their deeds and words. It is not easy to forgive such people but the result is a relief that cannot be described by words. This relief alone can bring in peace and tranquility that is so essential in life.

I feel sorry for people who say that they cannot get rid of their things due to sentimental reasons. You should not be attached to some furniture or a house even if it is beautiful. The attachment should be for people who bring in joy to your life. They are the saintly people the singer sings about in his song. They are hard to find but they are there. You just have to learn to find them and stick to them once found. They will teach you that there is tremendous joy in living the life of equanimity. It will free your soul like a butterfly and you will begin to soar like it.

 

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